How not to make friends?


Stan and Ollie

'Stan & Ollie'


Director

Jon S Baird


Starring

Steve Coogan, John C Reilly, Shirley Henderson, Nina Arianda, Rufus Jones


What's about

Laurel and Hardy -- the world's greatest comedy team -- face an uncertain future as their golden era of Hollywood films remain long behind them. Diminished by age, the duo set out to reconnect with their adoring fans by touring variety halls in Britain in 1953. The shows become an instant hit, but Stan and Ollie can't quite shake the past as long-buried tension and Hardy's failing health start to threaten their precious partnership.





Her Thoughts


For me this movie was a bit underdone in the matter of montage and script. The story was really good but execution wasn’t. Stan and Ollie were friends and partners for extremely long time, almost a lifetime. However, at some point their friendship changed, they are struggling with health, their wives don’t like each other, and everybody are blaming themselves for the failure of their careers.



Because it is natural that people change, our body changes whole set of cells for the new one every 7 years, so think how circumstances in our lives change human’s perception, personality and habits.



This thread is very interesting in the day and age of instant communication. People few decades ago couldn’t communicate so easily as we can right now, so people were looking for friends in their neighbourhoods, families or in the work place. Nobody had friends from the other side of the world, they didn’t even think that they can communicate with someone from different cultures with different mindsets and outlooks on life. Therefore, when they got older, people around them had similar lifestyles, husbands, children and retirement. I think that populations especially in the small cities and villages, had a lifetime friends like Stan and Ollie. And I believe that especially in those cases you could grow with the other person, you could see how life experiences has been changing them, however, sometimes these experiences make people fall apart. Because it is natural that people change, our body changes whole set of cells for the new one every 7 years, so think how circumstances in our lives change human’s perception, personality and habits.



Friends



Sometimes the best friends from high schools can’t look at each other in their 30s anymore, sometimes people after 40 years of friendship can still hang out like they used to when they were teenagers. There is no rule, or rather, there is just one – life. People becoming friends usually have something in common, after some time 5, 10, 15 years there may be nothing left. Married woman will not understand single friend and the other way around. If there is willingness from both sides to keep up this friendship then there is big chance that this will go on, if there only one side which wants to work, it ain’t gonna happen.



But because it is so easy to make friends, it is also very easy to lose them, you can have 20 conversation at the same time, you don’t want to input your time and energy into just one person.

Coming to current times of digital explosion, we can find friends from around the world, with different skin colour, sexual orientation, culture or believes. And suddenly we found out that friendship is not only about similarities but also about differences. From my own experience I can tell that some people are your friend just because of the same school, job or city. The minute you move out, they forget about you. This is understandable, people often confuse friendship with habituation. Anyway, now you can find friend with exactly the same interest without even leaving house, Facebook is enough. But because it is so easy to make friends, it is also very easy to lose them, you can have 20 conversation at the same time, you don’t want to input your time and energy into just one person. Everybody want to have fast food, fast friendship, without struggle but after all struggle is that what make people closer!!



My advice is to slow down, it is better to have 1 or 2 very reliable friends, who would do anything for you, than 200 acquaintances who don’t even know when your birthday is (without the reminder on Facebook).

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